Men in their teens and 20s have crippling disadvantages.
Research shows that women develop their frontal lobe around 11 and matures by the time they’re 20.
Your frontal lobe is what handles rational decision-making. Guess what the age for men is?
Our average is 12 years, but it doesn’t completely develop until we’re 25.
Women develop impulse control and long-term planning a lot sooner.
Sometimes sooner than some boys grow a spurt of pubic hair.
This allows women to excel at school, avoid life-long addictions and set themselves up for a good life. (Vast generalizations, but true for the most part.)
And, all power to them.
Yet men at this age, fall victim to all kinds of addiction and have trouble staying in school and out of trouble.
But, this isn’t a post about cribbing over how unfortunate it is that the cards are stacked this way.
We focus on what we can control.
Us men are living our lives in reverse.
Women’s attractiveness peaks at the age of 23.
And, men are most attractive to women at the age of 35.
That is a lot of time to build ‘life capital.’
You’re attractive by 35 because you set yourself up for success through good decisions at 25.
Sadly, for some men, it may be too late if their parents didn't act as a substitute for their frontal lobes.
That is the primary role of a father figure in a man's life— to make good, healthy decisions for their sons.
The lack of such a figure causes men to give in to instant gratification that is at times irreversible.
This could be through porn or substance addiction, unproductive risk-taking, or chasing women.
Right now, you’re broke as a joke, can barely talk to women, and have no status, experiences, or stories to tell.
And, that is completely fine.
Stop cashing out your life capital in your 20s.
Are you working a job you don't enjoy?
Are you settling for average women or no women at all?
Are you numbing yourself with porn, drugs, or alcohol?
If you said yes to any of them, you are cashing out WAY too early.
Your 20s are your building phase— when you go out and slay monsters, build a base, earn good money and collect XP.
Stop cashing out and trying to retire by 25.
You're trading the most important asset you have with instant gratification— time.
Build good foundations, put your head down, avoid distractions, and play the long game. Aim to build yourself for your 30s.
Cash out then if you have to. I don’t care.
But, stop sabotaging your 20s.
Stop consuming so much pot and alcohol, and work on hobbies instead.
Stop trying to chase women, and learn to transmute your sexual energy instead.
Stop trying to earn quick bucks through Dogecoin, and build a career instead.
Men by their nature, crave freedom and release.
Women, vices, and the expectations of your loved ones tie you down, not letting you be the man you’re supposed to be.
Say no, be stronger now, and be true to yourself and your purpose.
But, promise that you will return to them once you’ve done everything in your power to build yourself up.
The vices I had were enjoyable but the freedom I have being off of them is unimaginable.
The women I’ve been with were lovely, caring, and beautiful but the edge I have right now is even more thrilling.
Slay monsters, build yourself, take risks, and grow your life XP.
Live like a monk and fight like a warrior before you live like a king.
Brilliant! Thanks for this!